from Erika.. wala na bang mas exact pa dito? :))
" 'The most important, most critical component in
successful loving is commitment. Not love.' "
"It's easy to love without commitment. People do it
all the time. Easy to love, to give of oneself for a
while. But commitment implies bonding in such a
way that one promises to keep the fires of love
burning indefinitely.
"It also means shutting one's heart to the possibility
of loving another who might even be more
attractive, even more lovable. Not easy. This is
why solid commitments are not at all as common
as we are led to believe.
"In fact, more often than not, I think that the
commitment two lovers make are not equal. What
I mean is that the commitment of one might be a
whole lot more or a whole lot less than the
partner's. We see it all the time. One loves more
than the other and is more committed than the
other. It is false to believe that two lovers love
each other to the same degree.
"We have often seen lopsided love relationships
where one partner is giving so much more to the
relationship than the other. But writers and poets
seem to always indicate that love isn't just a two-
way street, but an equal two-way street. That
hardly ever happens. It is impossible to determine
exactly how much a man loves a woman or how
much a woman cares for a man.
"Love cannot be measured and that can be a huge
problem. You can love someone and tell him "I
love you" and you're telling the truth. But how much
do you love him? Enough to let him court you?
Enough to marry him? Enough to die for him?
"The greatest test of true love is commitment. And
the greatest indicator of deep love is deep
commitment. There can be no doubting this.
"I have heard people say all the right words, make
all the right moves, and pledge undying love, only
to walk away weeks or months later. Were they in
love? Sure they were. But not enough to allow
them to hold strong in their love. Not enough to
keep a commitment regardless of the pain.
"A lover gets this sinking feeling when there is a
sense that one is more committed than the other.
When one is giving a lot more than one is
receiving. When one's love is a lot more solid than
the creaky love of the partner. When a couple
believe strongly that their commitment to each
other is rock solid, there is a deep sense of
security, a feeling that it's OK to give all because
the gift of yourself is safe in the hands of the
beloved.
"If, however, there is doubt or, even worse, the
conviction that one is engaged in one-way giving,
in a one-way commitment that is lopsided, then
there is a tendency to pull back and not give as
much. And when that happens, love begins to
fade.
"In the countless counseling sessions I have had
with troubled couples over the years, there has
always been the problem of a failing commitment
on the part of at least one of the partners. Unless
there is the raising of the level of commitment, the
relationship is doomed. It's finished. Sooner or
later the stresses will take their toll and the
relationship will begin to fall apart.
"On the other hand, look carefully at lovers who are
still very much in love after 20, 25 years. Their
commitment to each other cannot be shaken.
Neither can their love."
 | yiii. katakot naman commitment. hehe |
| john lloyd naman this time? ndi na mcdreamy? hahaha. cge puntahan natin para kiligin rin ako tapos masaya na rin ako! :)) haha.
still. katakot pa rin commitment, X( |
 | Wow ang galing naman ng gumawa nito. Psychologist ba siya? ;D |
| Pwedeng kunin? Copyrighted ba 'to? Hahahaha. |
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yiii. katakot naman commitment. hehe 
